Sex is Emotions

What feelings do you bring and take?

Issue #33

By Vivienne Arkell

Sex is always about emotions. Good sex is about free emotions; bad sex is about blocked emotions. – Deepak Chopra

Being a sensualist and a very tactile lover, this quote surprised me. Emotions, not physicality and sharing, honestly?

Reflecting a bit longer on this made it an obvious fact. Emotion is energy within the body. Sensual flow is also body energy and begins mentally. Our deepest senses and instincts generate desires within the body, allowing sex to flourish.

As stated by authors Alexandra Katehakis and Tom Bliss in Mirror of Intimacy, “There’s no telling when emotions will show up, but the visceral energy they pour into our bodies demands that we mobilize them by expressing our feelings.”

Often just a compliment, hug, or kiss will express our feelings well enough. Once the brain’s limbic system is activated, hormone cocktails can start flowing, synapses kick in, and watch out. Of course, positive and loving feelings are much harder to repress when emotions are free and past sexual experiences have been enjoyable.

For those with a positive past, emotions of vulnerability are welcome and super exciting. Trusting a partner with open arms and reciprocal emotional energies and streams is exhilarating. Even in new encounters, rushing emotions present themselves to break down our walls and inhibitions. Feelings taken away from the encounter will greatly enhance or detract from future escapades.

As Chopra alludes, repressed or negative emotions block sex or make it boring, unpleasant, and sometimes even a painful experience. Sorting out your feelings and emotions after a sexual encounter can help you focus on the positive and exclude people or practices that leave you with negativity.

Honestly speaking, sex is about the emotions you bring to it and the emotions you take from it. Maybe one day it’s sensual and deeply emotional, then another time silly and playful, while the next naughty and carnally satisfying. Letting your feelings flow allows for different moods and the full spectrum of emotions – and sex – to evolve and be expressed.

Good sex gives us great emotional energy and takes emotional energy. Emotions generate feelings and invite sensual energy flow. Express your emotions and sensuality, the energetic music of your soul, with true feeling. Reach out and relate mentally, physically, and spiritually with emotion. Go deep into your gut and inner senses and truly connect. Namaste

For more on emotions, check out Mirror of Intimacy by Alexandra Katehakis and Tom Bliss in The Sensualogist bookshop.


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