“Becoming a sexual woman can be exciting, intimidating and terrifying all at the same time,” states Susan Bratton, author of Sexual Soulmates. And while we strive to bemore uninhibited, free and relaxed, confidence– the ability to trust in oneself and one’s capabilities – isn’t inherently considered a woman’s strength. The feminine nature doesn’t always make it easy for us to own our sexuality.
So how do we skip the negative thoughts and focus on being secure about what feels good and nourishes us? “As we cultivate our feminine energy, we can redefine the meaning of strength [and sexual confidence] says Madisyn Taylor, author and co-founder of the website Daily OM. Taylor continues, “What really makes a woman confident is her capacity for listening to her true self… Listening to the feminine side of ourselves may not seem easy at first for this type of energy is something that is overlooked in many aspects of our daily lives.”
Taylor explains that women’s “capacity to tap into our intuition and listen to our inner guides” shapes us to view situations with compassion and love. And “when we learn to integrate this source of strength into our daily tasks and decision making, we will find that we can be more flexible and open to things around us and more receptive to new ideas.” In short, become the essence of the empowered, embodied woman who is able to easily tap into all of her sensual, feminine energy.
Beyond listening to our instincts and true feminine self, we also must allow our body to own its hunger and ‘just do it.’ Enjoy connection and pleasure through practice and presence. Bratton’s advice is to “Have a beginner’s mind. Most important is the way you approach developing self-confidence in the bedroom. The key is to let go of performance and, instead, learn to simply be present.” The Sensualogist totally agrees with Bratton’s approach in keeping sensual play and naked time goal and performance free.
“Practice ‘beginners mind’ and give yourself and your partner permission to live in the question instead of having all the answers. Open yourselves to trial and error. Remember: there is no such thing as failure, only feedback,” says Bratton.
Since you are already reading here for inspiration, you know the importance of practicing sensuality and being present. Research shows that increasing your overall sexual intelligence and feeding curiosity makes us more likely to try new things and be confident in the bedroom.
A huge part of sexual confidence is just being there and owning it. Doing it, feeding it, trusting in yourself. The embodied woman listens to her body, feminine energy and intuitions. Let your feminine powers and strength provide a haven of pleasure and sexual wellbeing for you and your partner.
Own your sensuality and sexual pleasure to create confidence in your intimacy and partnership. Be proud to own and share yourself sexually with confidence.